Me, myself and I with your person, yourself and you

I'd rather be hated for who I am, than loved for who I am not.

                                                                                                      ~ Kurt Cobain 

      The true nature of someone is always subject to discussion. The way you live your life is always topic for conversation. And because we feel judged and analysed all the time, we so often tend to live life the way other people do.

      Safety in numbers... I think this rule should not apply in this situation. Originality is something we always want. If a dress is an original we pay big cash, if we come across an original painting of some famous painter we put it in expositions and art galleries. We obviously value originality in products, sometimes even to much. So then why do we fear to be original individuals? Why are we so scared to have our own personalities, our own thoughts and ideas, our own strong points and our own faults? Why are we scared to stand alone? Is solitude such an awful thing that we shall avoid it an any cost? Is our fear of loneliness bigger that our desire to be unique? 

      I want to think I'm not afraid. And I also want to think that I'm not alone. I want to see more individuals in the masses. I want to see people that stand up for what they want, people that believe in things just because they like them and they find themselves in them. I want to see people that accept the others fully, with their believes and opinions. I want to see groups of people, that even though they are together they are still individuals. I want a world in which everybody can scream their believes out loud without anybody judging them for what they are.

      There is a specific beauty in being unique. In being the only one. It may seem lonely sometimes, but knowing that you have something  no one else have is greater than the loneliness. Or so I hope.  I do try to be original. I do try to show myself to the people as I truly am. Because if you put on masks and go into the world, then all the connections you make are fake. Those people met someone that doesn't actually exist. How could they trust a mask? How could you actually fully see the world  from behind a mask? 

       In the end there will always be people that hate you, people that judge you. And that's fine. Because if you are true to yourself, if you are 'original' , you will meet other originals and together you can truly bond. And you can truly live. XoXo,m. 

Before we live in glory, we must live in pain

I hated every minute of training, but I said, 'Don't quit. Suffer now

 and live the rest of your life as a champion.'

                                                                                             ~Muhammad Ali

            Life of a champion always looks so amazing. He has the glory, the fame, the happiness. His dream came true and he is in that place where he wanted to be as a child. His life is perfect. At least it looks like it. And maybe it's not. But for him it may be as close to perfection as it ever will get. Everybody sees perfection different. But in order to achieve it we all need to do the same simple thing: suffer.

            Suffering is such an interesting process. It can come in so many ways that is really rare when two people suffer identical. And even when the suffering happens to two or more people, it can still be different.

            Some people are sad when they lose a toy or an object. Some get really worked up when an insignificant relationship ends or other suffer when their favourite TV show ends. Some people get upset when their favourite celebrity does something upsetting or when they have troubles in school.

            At the same time there are people that suffer from hunger, poverty or physical or mental abuse. There are people that are stabbed on their way back from a date. There are people that get raped only because there are people that are just mean. There are people that suffer from an incurable disease that came into their lives when they least expected it. There are people born with illnesses that isolate them from the world in a way or another. There are people that get abused by their own parents. They don't feel safe in their own houses, the only places that should always feel the safest.   

            So are the first problems less important than the second ones? Should we say to the first people that they exaggerate and should suck it up and move on, just because there are people that are less fortunate  than them? Should we take care of the last ones and ignore the others?

            I don't think so. I think we should take care of both of them in equal measures. They all suffer and they all have their on crosses to carry. And I'm going as far as to say that, maybe, the last category are a bit luckier. 

Don't get me wrong, is horrible what they have to put up with. There should never be such suffer in this world, but this world is no utopia. Things are far from perfect. But the people that suffer much in the beginning will be the strongest. 

Eventually they will find a way to get out of their personal hell. They will survive and get well again. They will gather the pieces and put themselves back together. And next time when life will slap them in the face, they will be prepared and strong enough to handle it.

The others may not be so lucky. Or they may be.

You never know with life. It sometimes hits the same person till they break beyond repair. Or sometimes it hits once, makes you stronger, and moves on.

Last Sunday a really good and dear friend of mine took me to the church he goes every Sunday. It was so different from what I expected and for the first time in my life I really liked a service. As a given they were talking about resurrection. And one person said that in order for us to fully enjoy the resurrecting power, we need to die. Before we can feel true happiness and joy, we need to suffer. Before we can fully understand how beautiful life is, we need to see how ugly it can get. 

I think that whatever makes us sad and hurts us is suffering. But all the suffering that we face makes us a little bit stronger. It makes life more bearable in the end. 

There may be a lot of stormy days in a row sometimes, but in the end the sun will shine. And it will shine so much brighter and harder and we will enjoy it so much more, just because we lived without it for a long time. 

            So, no matter what, keep going. Keep a joyful smile on your face, happiness in your mind, love in your heart and have hope that tomorrow will be better. And never forget the lessons that you learn while suffering. Because those dark moments are the ones that truly make us champions. XoXO,m. 

          

A look into my future, probably

"If you're not careful the newspapers will have you hating the people

who are being oppressed and loving the people who are 

doing the oppressing"

                                                                 - Malcolm X

Oh, the journalists. Powerful creatures. They stay behind their computers and type little stories. Stories that present facts, facts that affect in a way or another most of us. They type, most of them having no idea as to how much they influence their readers minds and perspectives. A good journalist, working for a good newspaper, can have the same power as a preacher. He can dictate people's decisions, the way they see and judge the world around them. 

So yeah, they are strong. Strong enough to make you see a dictator as a saviour, to make a victim feel like they are to blame for what happen to them.

And considering these factors what is the difference between a good journalist and a great one? In my opinion is the way you manage this power. You need to make sure that the facts you present are as true as possible. Your words are food for your readers minds.

As for me, the one that wants to become a journalist, I hope I'll manage to always stay true to myself and to write just the truth. I want to change the world, I want to make people see things as they really are, but I will never change the facts if i have a choice. 

The newspapers are the daily bibles and the journalists are today's gods. Use that power carefully  or the people will suffer. XoXo,m.